Finding Time in the Mayhem to Enjoy Each Other on Your Wedding Day
One of the common threads we hear from couples is how fast their wedding day goes by. After months of dreaming, planning, finding the right vendors, picking your best wardrobe, planning menus, charting guest lists, finessing all the details, it comes down to one 16-hour (give or take) day.
And it goes by fast.
You don’t have to worry about committing every tiny moment to memory—that’s what we’re here for!—but it can be helpful to take a step back, take a moment for each other, and remember what this day is all about: committing yourselves to each other and celebrating your love and relationship.
Here are a few ways to find some quiet moments on your wedding day to just enjoy being with each other and your special friends and family.
Do a first look
First look photoshoots—where you take photos together, just the two of you, before the ceremony begins—are more than just a trend. They’re a pre-scheduled block of time for just you and your partner with no one else around (well, besides us and the photographer), where you can enjoy each others’ company, get out any jitters, and just hang out before the busiest part of your wedding day begins.
Write letters to exchange the morning of
Some couples prefer to preserve the emotion of not seeing each other until their partner walks down the aisle. But you can still create a private moment before the mayhem. Take some time before your wedding day to write a letter to each other that you’ll both open and read before the ceremony. Reading your partner’s words to you in their own handwriting is a grounding and meaningful way to remember why you planned all this in the first place.
Sneak out of your reception (after the important parts are done)
It’s not uncommon for a couple to share their first dance, eat their meal, cut the cake—and then not see each other at all for the entire rest of the wedding reception. Your cousins from California are here, your partner’s in the photo booth with all his college friends, the DJ just started playing the anthem you shared with your childhood best friend, then suddenly it’s over and you don’t know how you possibly missed so much of the evening together.
Once your reception’s highlights are over—your first dance, the parent dances, the toasts, cutting the cake, etc.—sneak away with each other for a few minutes somewhere in or near your venue where it’s unlikely any of your guests will be. Just check in, hold each other’s hands, make a quiet moment to appreciate each other.
Our blogger once attended a wedding in a state park where the newlyweds snuck away for a half hour midway through the reception to get a photo under the waterfall where they first knew they loved each other. No one even noticed they were gone until the bride’s father wanted to dance with her. Your guests are busy having fun at the killer party you pulled together. It’s okay to sneak out with your partner for a quiet moment or two.
Create a secret signal
You don’t need to carve out time together if you’d rather just go with the flow of your day. You can create those pockets of “togetherness” even when you’re across the dance floor from each other surrounded by other guests all night by establishing a secret signal that means something to just the two of you. It could be a wink or a wave or another subtle gesture to connect with each other in the moments you both want to remember most.
Those times you connect with your partner will be the moments that stick in your memory the most from your wedding day. We’ve got the rest of your highlights covered.